Self Empowerment: How To Truly Empower Yourself And Take Control Of Your Life
If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I wish I could be more confident” or “I feel stuck”, you’re not alone. Self empowerment isn’t just a trendy buzzword. It’s the foundation for living a life that feels truly yours.
And it’s not about suddenly becoming fearless or perfect. It’s about finding ways to empower yourself to make decisions, take action and trust that you can handle whatever life throws your way.
In this post, I’m going to walk you through practical mindset strategies, real-life examples and small but powerful changes that can shift how you see yourself and what you believe is possible.
The Real Meaning Of Self Empowerment
Let’s strip away the Instagram quotes for a second. Self empowerment is not about waking up one morning and deciding you’re going to run the world with no doubts or bad days.
It’s about:
Recognising that you have choices (even when life feels out of control).
Taking responsibility for your direction, even in small ways.
Building the courage to make decisions that align with your values and not with someone else’s expectations.
It’s a skill. And like any skill, it’s built through small, consistent steps.
"I Struggle To “Empower Myself” And Feel In Control"
We’ve all felt like that. We've all had those moments when we’ve felt powerless. Whether it's feeling stuck in a job that drains us, stuck in a cycle of self-doubt or stuck in a relationship that doesn’t feel right.
The struggle often comes down to two things:
Believing change is too big or too late.
Waiting for permission from someone else to make a move.
Here’s the truth. No one is going to knock on your door and hand you confidence. And self empowerment doesn’t happen in a single life-changing event either. It’s built in the moments you decide, “This is my life, and I get to choose how I live it.”
A Story About Taking Back Control
I once worked with a young professional, who came to me feeling trapped in a career she didn’t love. Every time she thought about leaving, she’d hear this voice in her head saying, “You can’t do that, you’re not ready, you’re not good enough.”
Together, we started with one tiny step: writing down three things each day she did have control over. Sometimes it was as simple as choosing what to eat for breakfast or deciding not to check her emails after 8pm.
Within weeks, she realised she could make choices and that if she could make small ones, she could make bigger ones too. Six months later, she applied for (and got) a job in a completely different field.
That’s the thing about empowering yourself. It rarely starts with a big leap. It starts with proving to yourself that you’re capable, one small choice at a time.
Mindset Strategies To Empower Yourself Every Day
Let’s get practical. Here are some tried-and-tested mindset strategies that can help you move from “I wish” to “I can.”
1. Swap “I Can’t” For “I’m Learning To”
Your language shapes your beliefs. Saying “I can’t do this” shuts the door. Saying “I’m learning to do this” leaves it open.
Example: Instead of, “I can’t speak confidently in meetings,” try “I’m learning to speak more confidently in meetings.” It changes the tone from fixed to possible.
2. Make Decisions From Your Future Self
When faced with a choice, ask: “What would the empowered version of me do?”
Would they set a boundary? Take the risk? Say no without over-explaining?
This simple reframing pulls you out of fear and into intentional living.
3. Start Small (But Stay Consistent)
Self empowerment doesn’t come from overhauling your life in a week. It comes from repeated proof that you can follow through.
Commit to one daily action that’s purely for your growth and development. It may be reading a chapter of a book, taking a 10-minute walk to think, learning something new or perhaps journaling.
4. Surround Yourself With Possibility
The people you spend time with either reinforce your limitations or challenge them. Spend more time around those who remind you of what’s possible, whether that’s in real life, in books or online spaces.
5. Keep A “Power Journal”
Write down every time you make a decision you’re proud of, no matter how small. Seeing your own progress in black and white is one of the fastest ways to empower myself and quiet that inner critic. If journaling is not for you, then you could use the notes app on your phone,
The Link Between Self Empowerment And Resilience
Here’s something people often miss. Empowerment and resilience feed into each other.
When you empower yourself to take action, you build resilience by proving you can handle challenges.
And the more resilient you become, the easier it is to take empowered action in the future.
Think of it like a loop. Every step forward strengthens the foundation for the next one.
Common Myths About Self Empowerment
You need confidence before you can take action.
Actually, confidence often comes after the action.It’s selfish to put yourself first.
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself benefits everyone around you.You have to wait until you “feel ready.”
Readiness doesn't exist. You become ready through doing.
When Self Empowerment Feels Out Of Reach
There will be days when you feel like you’re going backwards. That’s normal. Empowerment is not a straight line. It’s a cycle of progress, setbacks and growth.
When you feel stuck:
Go back to the smallest action you can take today.
Remind yourself of past wins.
Reach out for support. You don’t have to do it alone.
How Coaching Can Help You Empower Yourself Faster
The process of self empowerment can feel overwhelming when you’re in the thick of doubt or uncertainty. That’s where working with a coach can make the difference.
A coach provides:
A space to challenge limiting beliefs.
Tools and strategies to build confidence step-by-step.
Accountability so you don’t slip back into old patterns.
Your Power Isn’t Lost. It’s Waiting.
Self empowerment isn’t about becoming a different person; it’s about uncovering the strength you already have and learning how to use it intentionally.
Start small. Choose differently today than you did yesterday. Keep proving to yourself that you can.
Because you can.
If you're ready to truly take control and start progressing towards your goals, ambitions and the other things you want out of life, secure your spot on my powerful upcoming Empowerment: Reach Your Potential session or check out the Your Starting Point session.